Whenever I talk about loving, Iâ€™m talking about, first of all, loving yourself. Let me tell you right now if you donâ€™t love yourself, youâ€™ll never love anybody else.
You see, self love is one of the most important good ingredients to feeling good about others. The person who says, “Well, Iâ€™m overweight and Iâ€™m out of shape and Iâ€™m not very well disciplined…” You know what they said about other people? “Well, she ainâ€™t no Miss America herself.” Yeah. “He ainâ€™t no Mr. Charles Atlas.” See, what happens is when we put ourselves down, we begin to look for those same shortcomings in other people.
Now, Iâ€™m not talking about that self love that says, “Iâ€™m better than anyone else and no one compares to me” type love. Iâ€™m talking about that love that says, “Baby, Iâ€™m good. But in every way, every day, Iâ€™m getting better. I learn from every person I meet. I learn from every situation I experience.”
People say to me, “Oh, come on now, Ed. You mean to tell me you learn from losers?” Well, of course I do. I find out what they do and I donâ€™t do it. I find out what they read and I donâ€™t read it.
But a lot of people not only donâ€™t learn from others, they donâ€™t even learn from themselves. I was talking to a fellow the other day. I hadnâ€™t seen him in quite some time. I said, “Well, tell me, sir… how have things been going for you over the last of years?” He said, “Well, they ainâ€™t been going very good.” I said, “I believe if I was you, Iâ€™d stop doing that!” Isnâ€™t that interesting? They do the things that cause them to lose and they do it over and over and over and wonder why theyâ€™re losing.
What Iâ€™m talking about is beginning to feel good about yourself, feel good about others, and therefore you bring out the best in everyone you meet.